Friends come into our lives in many different ways, through a mutual friend, through a class, through a hobby, through your neighborhood, and now even through social media or while sharing an Uber pool. (Yes this happens, I was in an Uber pool and two of the passengers that had just met each other ended up leaving together to enjoy a beer.)
When you look up the word friends in google it’s defined as “a person whom one knows & with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.” Though I think that’s a bit simplistic, and I don’t agree with the latter portion as you can be friends with a family member but you don’t have to be friends just because you are related by blood, it’s a choice.
When you ask Jamaicans about friendship, on the other hand, they have an expression which I’ve always related to, “Good fren betta dan packet money”
TRANSLATION: A good friend is better than pocket money.
1. No amount of money in the world can replace having true friend.
2. Friendship is more valuable than wealth.
For me, that’s a more rounded definition of friendship. For me, my friends are worth more than all of the wealth in the world. True friends are irreplaceable, making a mark in the journey of our lives.
Recently, as I have been observing others and speaking to various acquaintances and friends I realized how lucky I am to have my friends. The people who I refer to as my friends are people that I would do anything for, people who if they ever need anything (apart from burying a body or something lol) I would drop whatever I’m doing and be there for them, people who I may not see for awhile but when we do see each other again we get right back to where we left off. I’m lucky to have my friends and though sometimes I get caught up in my own world, they are always in my heart and mind.
“It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.”
As I pondered on my friends and what it means to be a good friend, I wondered why so many people have very little or no true friends that they can count on by the time they are in their mid-late 20s. When I have this conversation, people say to me, “well just wait and see with time you will have less friends.” No I don’t think so, I have friends who I’ve had the pleasure of making memories with for 15 years and counting and I continue to make new friends as I go along. I was never with the “no new friends” motto, I love meeting new amazing people. And though, there will always be ups and downs and some friends whom you lose touch with or grow apart from, the gems last a lifetime.
“Connection surpasses time.”
So I conclude with a thought that we should nurture our friendships, say hi and reach out just because you thought of them, celebrate each other milestones, make an effort to stay in each other’s lives and let’s make more incredible memories together. After all, we are here to connect and have experiences with one another. Spread love.
“I get by with a little help from my friends.”
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